QUESTION:
What is the best advice to help me have a stable and long- lasting relationship with my new partner?
ANSWER:
The reason why my loved ones never want to leave the home I make for them, is because I support their passions. (Only when I see them really neglecting me, do I speak up.) There’s a fine line where speaking up, turns into taking away someone’s freedom. By withdrawing from speaking to your partner, or not speaking as much, he or she will feel ‘punished’ by you. No matter what little thing someone does that doesn’t please you, NEVER punish them by withholding love –it’s a form of emotional blackmail. It could risk making your partner unhappy in your relationship.
It’s never a good idea to expect one’s partner to get all their happiness from you. It creates a dependency that is a dysfunctional way to have a relationship. Dysfunctional relationships don’t last.
I am confuse.
I have a question.
Can I stop talking to a family member that has abused me as a child. A sister that had participated on sexual and emotional abuse when I was 18 to 22? I am 55 and not talking to my sister for a year now. After reading your advice on relationship I am confuse. Is it wrong that i decided not have relationship with her and stopped talking to her?
I kept the things that happened in my heart lightly and moved out of family and country when I was 23. Ignored the facts and decided to hide it forever. (it would’ve kill my mother i thought) However I kept talking to her moderately. Pretending nothing ever happened. Out of all the members of my family she is the only one who decided to move to where I live. Her husband who abused me is death and she has grown up children. I learned my lessons and used them in my work. I don’t have any issues, illness or problem emotionally, mentally or physically.
I forgave but not forgot. I do not know how to deal with her.
She is still abusive emotionally. Once they settled here I stopped talking to her. If she called I answered and if she needed me I went to her. There were times that I felt she is changing and I kept my relationship more natural. She never calls or talk to me unless she needs something. In 9 years they are living here my son might have seen or heard from her every 2 or 3 years. I don’t wish to have relationship with her and her family. Yet I feel obligated and don’t want her children to know anything.
Past is gone and I am not concerned about that but it has affected my emotions and relations deeply for years. I changed and grown consciously a lot living my life . Then around 2004 I start to see deeper and start to forgive all that I needed to, including myself. Around 2011 I found you, they woman in my visions for years with books hanging from the sky. I learned from your teachings how to learn the lessons as I forgive, how to evolve consciously every day and overcome emotions and experiences by proxy for the good of all. Why she is in my reality still?
Is it wrong to cut the relationship. I truly love every one in this planet. I love her, she is my sister. What can I do. Her consciousness hasn’t changed or we could’ve had loving relationship, I pray for her, I send my love for her and her children. But I don’t see how this relationship benefit any of us. I stop talking but there is a pain in my heart. When I read your advice I felt my pain comes from the desire to have a good sister and fun relationship. Is it because I never talked to her? Is it because she never said sorry? Do I need that?
Dear Almine~
Your voice penetrates into the deepest core of I Am and any discordance comes forth as a sharp pain in the places where I do withhold voice of emotional honesty from my partner. I will be conscious today of the currents of love within Great Ocean of luminous White Light and invite pure tones to envelope the impure for higher expression. With a song of Praise and Love, grateful I AM
Dear almine , amazing advice , thank u for helping people maintain love in their relationships , I personally know how great and extraordinary it is when two souls Come together in harmony , theres nothing more beautiful… thank u dear almine.
Brilliant awareness giving awareness seeing 💓
Awesome advice (as always), Almine! Also thanks to YL for their insightful observation & comment.
Close to where I live there is a park in which some students created a butterfly garden. They planted some of the butterflies favorite plants and flowers knowing that it would attract them. It made me realize that we can never bind a free being such as a butterfly but we can definitely make something wonderful for them to hopefully enjoy in our presence.
Dear YL~ Appreciating this perspective you illuminate, illuminates within my being and sweet chimes ring and my heart sings…YES…”We can never bind a free being such as a butterfly but we can definitely make something wonderful for them to hopefully enjoy in our presence”