Today we share two little snippets (an audio and a piece of wisdom) from an older online course by Almine: How to Raise an Exceptional Child.
A temper tantrum is the outward expression of inner turmoil. It is therefore non-productive to take that outer expression at face value. Often the child directs the turmoil at a misperceived outer object – you, for instance, or another child touching his toy – not knowing why he or she is really angry.
The first thing to do is to give him space to calm down and come to terms with his feelings (the traditional time out). Do it in a non-punitive way by saying, “Go to your room”. Or use the traditional standby, the water therapy bath with chamomile or lavender flowers tied in a cotton sock and hung on the running tap. You can then ask, “What is really bothering you? If you tell me about it, perhaps I can help.
The Monarch with Egg on His Face
They walk among us seemingly as ordinary children. But then we look again, for something in their eyes catches our attention – a certain knowingness, an ancient wisdom coupled with a purity so profound that it stops us in our tracks. Surely the masters throughout the ages, the light-bearers of humanity, looked out at the world with just such clarity.
They may sit in a highchair with egg on their faces, but they wear it with dignity, like a monarch wearing a bejeweled crown. They watch us with a benign tolerance that leaves us wondering whether they view themselves as the parents and us as the children.
Find out more about this often overlooked Almine course here.