Question:
You’ve said once that according to a study posted in the magazine “Psychology Today, “ over 90% of the global population is relating according to the codependent triangle (the codependency triangle has three sides or legs). In the first leg or stage of a relationship, the codependent person gives as much as they can. But because they have given so much, they then think you owe them and that they can control you – leg two. If the other person in the relationship then tries to break away from the attempts to control him or her, the codependent person feels betrayed or unappreciated – leg three.
What is the way to deal with someone acting out the codependent triangle in a relationship?
The Seer:
When someone is in leg two and three of the codependent triangle, one can do nothing right in their eyes. Attempts to pacify them is an energy drain. The only positive thing to do is to learn about oneself through their folly.
Wow that is a beautiful and clear insight that is so helpful to me Sarah. Thanks for sharing your experience of overcoming the codependency loop.
How are people evolving beyond this? I don’t seem to be able to shake the feeling that half of the soulless population of humanity (this may not be exactly half) is about to be purged. Not just from our planet…but from other planets in our cosmos as well.
Very interesting. Thank you for this keen insight.
I used to play through this cycle with my husband all the time, we both did it to each other in a much milder form than many people seem to, but it still was not very productive and had us going in circles. It’s interesting because in the middle of it, we were both just trying to get each other to do what we thought was best for one another because we cared, but it was still not beneficial, on the contrary. The most beneficial thing that changed after I came across this in Almines material, was that I learned to give as much as I felt inspired to from the heart but without attachment to outcome. As well as trying to not give to a point where I was drained, only giving from the abundance of what I could share. When I started giving in a healthier way, he began to as well, and we became more independent but still together and our relationship transformed into something so much more stable, productive and beautiful. I find relationships so fascinating and inspiring to learn from.
Thank you. 🙏
So helpful❤️
Blessings to you ✨