This Too Shall Pass

Question:
Why is my young adult child so hostile towards me?

The Seer:
It is a time of a lot of inner conflict for a young person: he or she isn’t sure whether they want you to be their buddy or their parent. They want to stride out on their own, but the grownup world seems much too complicated to navigate on their own. They still need un-judgmental mentoring and a family home to retreat to as a safe space. Even though parenting at this stage seems like a thankless job, don’t give in to their poor judgement and push them out of the nest too soon, even though they may think they’re ready… Start treating them with more lenience and allow them opportunities to fail as well as succeed. No matter how obstreperous they are, just start each day as a new beginning and leave the conflicts of yesterday behind. Don’t pacify them by spoiling them, nor withdraw your love — even if ungratefully received.

Remember, “this too shall pass.” It is just the tumultuous
time of the biggest transition of their lives.

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