Let us continue today with our ongoing series about the spiritual tool of recapitulation, as found in Almine’s beautiful book A Life of Miracles, that is just filled with these kinds of tools. We have already posted parts 1, 2 and 3, so be sure to check those posts out as well. When we left you, we just discussed the first 3 of a total of 9 steps to successfully learn from the past, by seeing what (1) the lesson is, (2) what the contract is and (3) what the role is. Today we continue our journey…
4. What is the mirror?
We pull relationships into our life that do one of the following things: they mirror an aspect of who we are, what we have given away, what we still place judgment on, or what we haven’t developed yet.
For example, if our innocence is gone, we may find ourselves intensely attracted to a young person. If we have given our integrity away, we might fall in love with a missionary who, in our eyes, represents integrity.
Another thing that can be mirrored, is that which we judge. If we have problems dealing with people who lie, then we are placing a judgment on them so we attract liars.
If a man isn’t in touch with his feminine side, he might choose a woman who is overbalanced in her feminine to make him feel more complete. Later, he becomes frustrated because he cannot leave town for the weekend because there might be a leak in the water pipes and she wouldn’t know how to handle the situation. These little irritations could build into resentment unless he sees that he deliberately chose her to mirror his underdeveloped feminine side.
5. What is the gift?
Every person we encounter has come to give us a gift and receive one as well. This applies even with the most casual acquaintance.
Ask, “What gift am I supposed to give this person?”. It may be something as simple as offering him the gift of unconditional love; or we may recognize something beautiful in him that nobody else has seen; or we may genuinely listen to a man and for the first time in years, he feels heard and understood.
Another time we may encounter a woman who reacts with bursts of anger and we have the opportunity to demonstrate our mastery of the situation.
Note – The last four questions (6, 7, 8, 9) deal with our attitudes surrounding the answers to the first five questions (1, 2, 3, 4, 5).
6. Can I allow?
This is the point of discerning what has to be allowed, what has to be changed, and finding the courage to act. Imagine yourself as the water in a river. If a rock is in front of you, are you going to stop or flow around the rock? We have masterfully created every situation in our life—even the rock—so can we just allow it to be there for this moment? Is this battle ours? A battle is only worth fighting if the stakes are worth having. If you have already learnt the lesson, no need to re-fight this battle.
To be continued…